A Leadership Trait We Often Overlook: The Ability to Forgive Oneself First

‎Forgiveness: A Mirror We Must First Face

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‎This time, the Holy Spirit is bringing me to a different angle.

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‎Yes, we’ve read about forgiving 70 × 7 times (Matthew 18:22)

‎For some of us who grew up in Christian homes, it was more than a Scripture. It was a song.

‎As a little girl, I could sing it by heart.

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‎But today, the Holy Spirit whispered something deeper:

‎“Out of that 70 × 7, how many times have you forgiven yourself?”

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‎Let that sink in.

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‎We often quote,

‎“Love your neighbor as yourself.”

‎But here's a tough question:

‎If you haven’t forgiven yourself, how can you truly forgive others?

‎Does that mean you don’t love yourself enough to release yourself from guilt, shame, and regret?

‎Because real forgiveness flows from love... And love starts at home. Within.

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‎Let’s get honest:

‎🔦 ‎That job you didn’t get?

‎🔦 That exam you didn’t pass?

‎🔦 That skill you didn't get at an early age?

‎🔦 That decision you didn't take?

‎🔦 That person you allowed into your life who broke your heart?

🔦 ‎That moment you gave too much of yourself?

🔦 ‎That season you loved the wrong person, too deeply, too freely?

‎‎You’re still carrying it.

‎‎And carrying guilt only makes you stuck.

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‎Sometimes, the most spiritual thing you can say is this:

‎“I forgive you.”

‎Not to them.

‎To you.

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‎For the past few weeks, I’ve been waking up very early, whispering: ‎“Chimamanda, I forgive you.”

‎And slowly, quietly, the peace came.

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‎Truth is, as I speak to one, I speak to all.

‎I’m not left out.

‎You’re not left out.

‎We all have a mirror to face.

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‎‎📣 What about you?

‎What’s that one thing you need to forgive yourself for?

‎Say it. Write it. Whisper it.

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‎You’re allowed to heal. 💛